German Reflexive Verbs: sich freuen & sich waschen (Accusative vs Dative)
How to use German reflexive verbs, when the reflexive pronoun is accusative (mich) versus dative (mir), and where it sits in the sentence.
A reflexive verb points the action back at the subject, so it needs a reflexive pronoun that matches the subject. Think sich freuen (to be glad), sich setzen (to sit down), sich waschen (to wash).
| Person | Accusative | Dative |
|---|---|---|
| ich | mich | mir |
| du | dich | dir |
| er/sie/es | sich | sich |
| wir | uns | uns |
| ihr | euch | euch |
| sie/Sie | sich | sich |
Most reflexives are accusative: Ich freue mich. But when the sentence already has another (accusative) object, the reflexive turns dative: Ich wasche mir die Hände — die Hände is the object, mir just says they are my own.
Position: in a main clause the pronoun comes right after the conjugated verb — Er setzt sich. — never glued to the subject.
English uses -self only for emphasis (I enjoy myself), so learners often drop the German pronoun. In German it is obligatory: no mich, no sentence.
Examples
Das Kind freut sich über das neue Buch.
The child is happy about the new book.
Ich wasche mir vor dem Essen die Hände.
I wash my hands before eating.
Der Mann setzt sich auf den Stuhl.
The man sits down on the chair.
Wir freuen uns auf den Tag.
We are looking forward to the day.
Wäschst du dir die Hände?
Are you washing your hands?
Common mistakes
Reflexive verbs cannot stand alone. *sich freuen* always needs the reflexive pronoun that matches the subject; without *mich* the sentence is incomplete.
When there is a separate accusative object (*die Hände*), the reflexive pronoun becomes dative: *mir*, not *mich*. The body part is what gets washed; *mir* just says it's my own.
The reflexive pronoun does not glue to the subject. In a main clause the conjugated verb comes second, and *mich* follows the verb: *Ich freue mich …*
Related topics
Practice
Ich freue ___ auf die Ferien.
Ich wasche ___ die Hände.
Meine Schwester freut ___ über das Geschenk.